I kept my name when I got married. I refuse to call it my maiden name. It is my name.
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As we began planning a wedding and a life together, we kept coming back what to do about our last names.
Having people see you the way you want to be seen – the way you see yourself – is a privilege. Without it, every day is a battle to have your identity validated, a battle against erasure and for self-determination.
The power of my own quest for authenticity may be my greatest lesson to impart as a parent.
I’m attached to my name because of the stories that come with it and because of the perspective they’ve given me on the world.
If there’s a single name that feels the least “real,” the most connected to social structures, cis-het-patriarchy and its assumptions, it’s the one I was given at birth.
While we’re demanding that women be treated equitably in this society, we’re saying that it’s up to women — still — to make the “proper” choice, like not taking their husbands’ names, to legitimize feminism.
Bruno Mars on why he stopped using his Puerto Rican father’s last name and took a stage name instead.
Who am I really, if I change with every person I meet? Maybe we are all events, shaped by circumstance and those around us. All choose your own adventures for our readers’ liking.